Category Archives: i: imperfection

What if the true picture of you wasn’t perfect? Celebrate Flaws

MIcroaggression

Microaggression – I finally have a name for a very real and rapidly growing problem. One I have experienced on numerous occassions over the last few years.

 

Thank you to Columbia University professor of psychology and education Dr. Derald Wing Sue for his work in this area (and the above video). I look forward to reading his book. Also thank you to Gayle Kiser. Director of Communications and Marketing, CUPA-HR,  for her blog post I found that introduced me to the word.

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ABC Resolution: imperfection

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April 23 -  May 6
What if the perfect picture of you wasn’t perfect?

Imperfection, the hallmark of our humanity, gives us strength to explore what is different about ourselves. Without physical imperfection, we would not uncover our unique beauty. Without personality imperfection, we would not try to become better people. Without systematic imperfection, we would not strive to improve our existence. Without human imperfection, we would not evolve. Imperfection is not a weakness, rather the portent of our potential.

Imperfection is:
A ripple on a pool of stagnant water creating energy and flow; A lopsided grin on a smooth face exposing the brain behind the mask; A chip in a slab of granite connecting us to the earth whence it came; Air bubbles in blown glass, remnants of the breath that blew it into shape; Errors in a computer program reminding us that perfection is a man-made construct.

When we embrace imperfection, we find talent yet to be developed. By its very existence, imperfection tells us that we, our world and our universe, are all meant to be imperfect.

 resolve to:
celebrate flaws

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Acknowledging imperfection is most important when it causes us to question what about us is the same. We are constantly bombarded with the formulas for perfect, based on the supposition that imperfection is a lack of something in us. When all-the-same is the goal, we have to fill that void and correct any flaws to achieve this perfect oneness. Whether expressed directly or indirectly, the inducement not to question compels us to believe something is ‘wrong’ with us. Leaving us not with choices but a directive to fix something based on a false construct at the onset.

When we question and, if necessary, ignore the perfect imperative is when we can we start to engage in critical thinking and begin to determine our own destiny and happiness. More often than not, we discover our imperfections to be our best assets, the uniqueness that is our true strength. I encourage, entice and plead with you to celebrate flaws in yourself and others. Only then will we start to truly value, instead of disdain, our differences and accomplish what’s truly possible.

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‘Tis the Season

Some years, I hate the holidays. So this year I’m applying my own advice and looking at my abc’s of different for new options and ideas. Here are some different various approaches I came up with for holiday survival under the words for the letters d, f, g, I and m.

different words for holiday survival

D is for Disruptiondisruption: Tap into the residual energy created from the explosive disruption of all things holiday and demands of the season to bring forth happiness and joy.

F is for Fractals

fractals: Find good will patterns of the past year, then repeat and scale them throughout these holiday times and the new year.

Golden Eggsgolden eggs: Allow all the geese that lay within your realm to lay their eggs unencumbered by yours or other’s failures of the past and expectations of the future so they will truly be golden gifts of hope.

Imperfectionimperfection: Know somewhere in your desire for the perfect holiday can be found beautiful imperfections that, like shining ornaments on the tree, will reflect the true beauty of the season.

M is for Moving Sidewalksmoving sidewalks: Employ the positive sentiments of the season as your moving sidewalk assists to help you create your part of peace on earth and best wishes for the new year!

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Stop Violence, everyday, everyway

peace_doveThe deaths of the Beth Butler and Butch Baker is, of course, an example of physical violence. Their killing is also an example of workplace violence. Policing was the officers’ work. The Santa Cruz community in which they were shot was their workplace. Theirs’ was dangerous work. As was beautifully pointed out by their family, friends and colleagues, they choose this work not because they liked danger. They were the kind of people who wanted to use their smarts, talents and hearts to help and protect others. Police work helped them enact a first line of defense against those who would assault others, to be peace officers.

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